I'm doing a special book review for Father's Day. The book I reviewed was Project Dad by Todd Cartmell. Reading this book was so much fun. The author takes a charming nuts and bolts approach to the idea of parenting. Though, Todd Cartmell is a Clinical Psychologist by trade you wouldn't know it from the way he writes.
One of my favorite chapters, is when he talks about being your child's coach. Cartmell basically says to notice what is bothering your child, sit down with them. And then to brainstorm some 'flexible thoughts' that your child can use to self-talk during rough times.
Todd Cartmell makes it easy for Dads to follow his suggestions, he gives many practical exercises in each chapter where you can practice the skills he's described.
Many of his ideas remind me of a close friend I had who was also a Dad. Like the author, my friend Vince taught by example. He never expected his employees or his children to do a job that he wouldn't do himself. When sharing a thought or idea, you could see the light of listening in his eyes. First, he would pause, as he was thinking and then he would share his insight/s. Embracing the crazy every day things that would occur and make a positive spin on the situation. He put breath into life and those whose lives he flowed through. Vince's children have turned out to be strong, amazing people.
I have a Father, who I love a whole lot who has taught me strength, unexpectedly. At the same time, it's good to know that there are men like Vince who with listening and humor share another side of what it means to be a Dad. Recently, I found out my dear friend Vince passed away, and that for the rest of my life, I'll take the self belief he instilled in me and flow it on. I whole- heartedly recommend this book to all Dads and Dads to be.
Book has been provided courtesy of Baker Publishing Group and Graf-Martin Communications Inc. Available now at your favorite bookseller from Bethany House, a division of Baker Publishing Group.
By Candace Duiker
June 7, 2011
